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The People Who Only Exist in Group Chats


Some vanish without dying, and we grieve them one unread message at a time.

There is a certain kind of silence that doesn’t feel empty. It feels like someone you used to know is still there, typing. The light is on, but no one replies. You scroll back up and there they are, their name, their photo, their messages from three autumns ago. Frozen, but not gone. Alive, but not here.


What does it mean to lose someone who hasn’t died?

In the digital age, we do not mourn with funerals alone. We archive, we mute, we stop tagging them in memories. There are people we haven’t heard from in years, yet their names still light up our phones when someone revives an old thread. Their jokes are still in the chat. Their last “lol” is still there, time-stamped, untouched. Like the last light left on in a house no one lives in.

The group chat becomes a mausoleum. A place where someone still exists in lowercase letters and pixelated laughter. Where their absence is louder than anyone’s presence. This is how grief works now, not as a scream, but as a soft vibration at 2:08 AM.

Sometimes, we hover over the name. We almost text. But what would we say? “Where did you go?” feels too direct. “Miss you” feels too dramatic. So we do nothing. We just notice. And move on. And notice again.

They didn’t block us. They didn’t say goodbye. They just… stopped. Life, maybe. Or distance. Or something unspeakable. There’s a kind of disappearance that feels intentional, but also tender. Like someone pulling away in slow motion so it wouldn’t hurt too much.

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Why do we hold on to conversations that no longer talk back?

Because language is not just what we say. It’s the residue of presence. It’s the way someone once typed “you good?” without punctuation but with care. It’s the shared memes from 2019, the inside jokes no one else would get. It’s the pause in the conversation that never found its end.

To delete the chat would be to admit they’re really gone. But to keep it is to invite them to return. Just in case. Just maybe. So we carry them like emotional bookmarks. Symbols of who we were when they were still with us. Not physically, but emotionally present, which, in some ways, mattered more.

This is the new ghost story. Not haunted houses, but haunted group chats. Where the ghost still has a profile picture and a last seen status. Where grief is shared not through tears, but through screenshots sent in whispers. “Remember when they said this?” someone types. And everyone reads, but no one responds.

We are not always grieving people. Sometimes, we are grieving versions of ourselves who only existed in their presence.


Where do people go when they stop replying?

Maybe they’re fine. Maybe they’re healing. Maybe they’re lost in some chapter of life that doesn’t have room for who we were together. That’s the hardest part, the not knowing. We’re taught to fear death, but in reality, it’s ambiguity that haunts us.

Because when someone dies, we bury them. When someone disappears, we refresh. Again and again. We check their stories. We revisit old photos. We listen to the songs they once sent. We become digital archaeologists of people who were once constants. Now variables. Shadows.

And yet, in some strange way, that’s also beautiful. To have loved someone enough that even their silence echoes.

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